A Rose by Any Other Name...

    Another popular couple is calling it quits after several years of marriage and two children later. I know this isn't shocking given that Hollywood couples rarely stay together. However, the reason I bring this particular on up is the fact that this couple (with the help of their “coach” mind you) decided to define this action in a very unique way. They’ve called their decision to end their marriage a “conscious uncoupling”. Now, if you’re like me, you’re probably scratching your head right now and saying to yourself, huh?

   In essence, this “uncoupling” describes their desire to separate on amicable terms with one another. Okay, I get that, but you are still separating, right?

   It surprises me how often we rename things and think it will bring a different result. Call divorce whatever you want, but children of “conscious uncoupling” are still going to go through the same guilt, fears, questions, and struggles that every child goes through when their parents divorce. Changing the name of something doesn’t change what it is. Today your boss could fire you and you could choose to call it an “involuntary career change” but that doesn’t change the fact that he’s not paying you anymore! 

  My sadness is thinking how many couples will use this faulty logic when it comes to their own relationships and “uncouple” from each other because it sounds better rather than work out their differences because that’s what’s best for the whole family. 

    In William Shakespeare’s famous play Romeo & Juliet, there's a famous line that Juliet recites. While speaking of her love of Romeo who happens to be a Montague, a family that is hated by her family, she questions--what’s in a name? In other words, it matters more what something is rather than what it’s called, therefore, “a rose by any other name would still smell as sweet.”
   And a divorce by any other name still ends in two people, severing a relationship that was supposed to last until death parted them. And let me add, a divorce by any other name still smells the same!