There
are times when traumatic events take place in our lives that are out of
our control. When that happens in close relationships, there's a
temptation from that point on to try and control every other
relationship we have. The mindset being, "No one's ever going to hurt me
like that again." But as long as we do this, we won't have authentic
relationships because people will resent and fight our controlling behavior. Building a 'wall' around ourselves isolates and hinders our chances at meaningful relationships as well.
What's the alternative? Risk getting hurt again and share your life
with potential friends. They may let you down, but then again, you've
let others down as well. Forgive others and allow yourself to be
forgiven.
Furthermore, there's someone far more powerful and
intelligent than we are who is in control of it all. You can accept this
fact and bend to His will (give up "control"), or you can fight Him for
it and eventually lose anyway. Relationships are a risky business, but they're worth the risk
especially our relationship with Jesus.
